This has been the hardest part of the move to PA. In Memphis, I worked 60-80 hours a week at the theatre, and my coworkers were my friends. We were one big artsy fartsy family! And although I am making friends here, I haven't made those deep connections yet. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect this to happen overnight and I think I'm making friends at a normal pace, but I am spending a lot of time alone and find myself feeling depressed.
To try to be better about being alone I am making an attempt at doing something on my days off when I'm alone. For example, I'm off tomorrow so I'm planning to go on a little shopping trip (mostly window shopping) to one of the nearby "bigger" cities with better malls. The problem is that I hate the idea of going alone. Is it really worth driving an hour or more each way to maybe spend $30? And when I get there will I have any fun by myself and without a friend to help tell me what looks good and what's crap?!? I'm used to shopping with friends which is probably why I like shopping so much, so how will it be any fun without the friends part?
this is funny to me because this is one way we are so different. i actually prefer shopping, seeing movies, etc. by myself, though maybe i'm just gotten used to it that way. years ago when i was first living alone in a new city, i decided i had two options. stay home and be sad that i couldn't do anything because i had noone to do with. or, two, go out and do things on my own because i deserved it. over the years, i've learned to choose 2 more often and i rarely regret it.
ReplyDeleteI say DO go shopping on your own...at least it'll be an outing. I went shopping a lot by myself when I lived in jackson after college (what a HORRIBLE decision, but I made it!) and it was nice to just get out and say i did something other than work. I'm sorry it's so lonely, but fortunately, you will attract a lot of friends with your sweet personality...and you'll get over the hump. :)
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